5 Features Of ‘Arrangee’ Marriage

By on April 16, 2016

Arranged marriages started a long time ago in Nigeria. According to old stories told to us by our parents, marriages back then were arranged by parents. The ‘would be’ couples almost never have a say. That trend has somehow metamorphosed into present day Nigeria. People who are advocates for arranged marriages, have argued that dating is the reason why many people are unmarried now. Some of you might not know what this type of marriage entails.

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Age Difference doesn’t matter: In marriage that are arranged, its common to see a very old man marry a girl young enough to be his child. The sad part is, the female who is always at least 10 years younger has no choice but to marry the man either because he is rich and would take her family out of poverty or her family simply prefers him.

Nothing like dating before marriage: Anyone whose marriage was  arranged knows surely that dating before getting married is impossible. Usually, the two people know nothing about each other and just so a family relationship is furthered or a relative doesn’t die unmarried, they are match-maked with someone they have no idea who they are.

Never met in person: Arranged marriages have various degrees. There is the case where both parties don’t see each other until the day of the wedding. So they are just hoping and praying that their would be husband/wife don’t end being too ugly, short or tall.

It doesn’t feel like your wedding: In arranged marriages, you may feel like your wedding is not your own. You do not know the person you are marrying nor their family. It is completely done by the families, the bride and groom have very little say in their wedding ceremony.

It’s not your fault: When problems occur in the marriage, the couple just find a way to blame those that brought them together and not they themselves.

What do you think???